Continued from previous DZ
Close your eyes and open your heart
Rabbi Elazar, the son of Rabbi Shimon, raises the question about why God brings death on a husband in order to give his wife to her true soul mate. God could separate them and then bring the soul mate to marry the woman.
Rabbi Shimon answers telling his son that it’s done for the benefit of the man. God acts with mercy, saving the man from the pain of seeing his wife with another man.
If the soul mate is not pure and ready for his woman, she will stay with the other man and he missed the opportunity to be with her.
The Zohar suggests to the man who seeks his soul mate that he should pray to God that his soul mate won’t be given to another man while he is working on himself.
As we can understand from this study, the subject of bringing soulmates together is very complicated, especially in our generation. We carry the Tikkun from many previous lives.
I would suggest to men and women to drop all ‘templates’ they have for a ‘best fit’ soul mate and look into their own tikkun. Work on themselves and pray to have the ability to see their soulmates even if he or she are not as they would like or expect.
A single man or woman should date anyone who has an interest of being with them. They should hold the physical pleasures until they understand that they can help each other in their spiritual growth and soul purification.
DO NOT LOOK AT THE MATERIAL ASPECT OF LIFE BECAUSE IT IS TEMPORARY!.
Jumping into sex creates a dependency and desire for temporary pleasure. It draws a klipa that disguises the true soul connection. Some women are afraid to lose the man and open themselves for sex but in most cases the relationship doesn’t hold for long. If your souls connect then you can, progressively with restriction, allow physical contact.
Marriages that come from physical attraction end up with pain and incomplete tikkun. Wealth and material comfort are good only in this world. If it’s good for your soul, marry the man or the woman even if they are poor or weak. Good work on the soul in this lifetime can merit us immortality when the time of the resurrection comes.
Man should seek marriage at any age, even if he is unable to make physical unification. A woman that is no longer ‘fruitful’ may have missed her soul mate. A soulmate of a widow or divorced woman may have a tikkun related to the children from her previous marriage.
When looking for a soul mate, close your eyes and open your heart, mind, and soul to make a better choice.
The Zohar brings the example of King Saul and David. King Saul became king because it wasn’t David’s time. When the time came King Saul died of his inequities and David took the crown that already belonged to him. With his mercy God took King Saul while he was the king so he won’t see David taking the kingdom from him.
The deeper aspect of this study is that we need to have desires, which are vessels, that would bring the Light that we need for our tikkun. If we desire something that is not ours then we lose it sooner or later.
Our focus and desires should be on our tikkun before looking for the comfort of life.