Daily Zohar # 3638 – Emor – Who can find a virtuous wife?
147. וְסוֹד הַדָּבָר – זֹאת תּוֹרַת הַקְּנָאֹת, חָסֵר. אַזְהָרָה לִנְשׁוֹת הָעוֹלָם שֶׁלֹּא יִסְטוּ תַּחַת בַּעְלֵיהֶן. וְאִם לֹא, אָז קֶמַח שְׂעֹרִים עָתִיד לְהִקָּרֵב. וּמֵהַדָּבָר הַזֶּה נוֹדָע דָּבָר אַחֵר. אַשְׁרֵי חֶלְקָם שֶׁל יִשְׂרָאֵל, שֶׁהֲרֵי כְּנֶסֶת יִשְׂרָאֵל לֹא מְשַׁקֶּרֶת בַּמֶּלֶךְ הַקָּדוֹשׁ לְעוֹלָמִים. כְּנֶסֶת יִשְׂרָאֵל תְּמֵהָה, (במדבר ה) אֲשֶׁר תִּשְׂטֶה אִשָּׁה תַּחַת אִישָׁהּ?! מִשּׁוּם כָּךְ דִּין הָאִשָּׁה הַזּוֹ מִמְּקוֹמָהּ הִיא בָאָה. וּמִי הוּא מְקוֹמָהּ? אוֹתָהּ שֶׁכָּתוּב בָּהּ (משלי לא) אֵשֶׁת חַיִל מִי יִמְצָא וְרָחוֹק מִפְּנִינִים מִכְרָהּ. (שם יב) אֵשֶׁת חַיִל עֲטֶרֶת בַּעְלָהּ.
Up until Pesach, Israel was bringing offerings from the crop of the earth, because the illumination of Malchut is called ‘Earth’. Even though the connection to the earth has an aspect of judgment, it comes with a state of rest, and peace. They brought offerings of barley that is the first of the crops of grain. It was the first connection that Israel had with the Holy One Blessed be He.
While Israel brought an offering from the ‘Earth’, The Holy One Blessed be He, brought for them bread (Manna) from the heavens that is Zeir Anpin.
“וַיֹּאמֶר יְהוָה אֶל מֹשֶׁה הִנְנִי מַמְטִיר לָכֶם לֶחֶם מִן הַשָּׁמָיִם וְיָצָא הָעָם וְלָקְטוּ דְּבַר יוֹם בְּיוֹמוֹ לְמַעַן אֲנַסֶּנּוּ הֲיֵלֵךְ בְּתוֹרָתִי אִם לֹא.”
“Then YHVH said to Moses, “Behold, I will rain bread from heaven for you. And the people shall go out and gather a certain quota every day, that I may test them, whether they will walk in My law or not.”
“זֹאת תּוֹרַת הַקְּנָאֹת אֲשֶׁר תִּשְׂטֶה אִשָּׁה תַּחַת אִישָׁהּ וְנִטְמָאָה”
“‘This is the law of jealousy, when a wife, while under her husband’s authority, goes astray and defiles herself,”
The word ‘קְּנָאֹת’ ‘jealousy’ in the verse is spelled without the letter ‘ו’ Vav, to give a warning to women to stay faithful to their husband and not to go to another.
Happy is the portion of Israel because the Congregation of Israel is forever truthful to the Holy King. She wonders how it can be that a woman can go to another instead of her husband. Because of that action, the woman goes through a judgment from her place. This ‘place’ is the Shechina in Malchut. About her it is written;
“אֵשֶׁת חַיִל מִי יִמְצָא וְרָחֹק מִפְּנִינִים מִכְרָהּ.”
“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.”
The ‘Virtuous’ wife is the Shechina in Malchut. Her ‘place’ is with us in this world. If an ‘earthly’ woman goes aside she disconnects from her husband that is the aspect of Zeir Anpin. At the same time, she distances herself from the Shechina that is always faithful to her husband, the Holy King. The outcome is harsh judgment because the woman is disconnected from the earth and the heavens.
If you ask about unfaithful men then their ‘punishment’ starts immediately in this world. Since they redirect their flow of light from Yessod to a woman other than the one they joined in holy matrimony, they break their channels of sustenance and experience broke relationships with other people. After death, they may even experience the harsh punishment of ‘כף הקלע’ ‘hollow of a sling’, where the soul is in constant unrest, thrown from a ‘sling’ from one side of the world to the other side.