When the souls come out from the upper level, they come male and female and get separated before given a body in this world. Sometimes the soul of the female comes out before her soulmate. If the male is not ready at the level he needs to be in order to unify with his soul mate then she is given to another.
When the man is ready for his soul mate then the one that married her must leave her of die so the soul mates can be unified in this world. Unifying the soul mates is difficult for the Holy One Blessed be He because the man that married the woman while the other man is getting ready, must leave the woman or die, even if he doesn’t carry any judgment.
Connecting one to his soul mate in this world is very important and if one has this merit then God will do whatever is needed to unify them.
We should know that as we are coming closer to the end of the world Tikkun meeting soul mates is very rare.
Adam and Eve were born as one body before they got separated. The Creator can’t think with separation so he created Adam and Eve as one body with a soul of male and female aspects. Then he separated them to be husband and wife.
Cain and Able were born with their soulmates and as the generations progressed the distance between the soul mates grew. We are now at the time that we must work harder spiritually to merit our true soul mate. Unfortunately the other side pushes an image of bliss and ideal life for those who meet their soul mate but as the Zohar reveal to us, the man must work himself to merit his soul mate and be able to complete his Tikkun.
Women should pray for their soul mate to achieve the spiritual level they need to have so they can get married and do the spiritual work together. Selfishness and false images of what a soul mate should be cause a lot of heartaches and imbalanced marriages.
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