“יְהִי יִצְחָק, בֶּן-אַרְבָּעִים שָׁנָה, בְּקַחְתּוֹ אֶת-רִבְקָה בַּת-בְּתוּאֵל הָאֲרַמִּי, מִפַּדַּן אֲרָם–אֲחוֹת לָבָן הָאֲרַמִּי, לוֹ לְאִשָּׁה.”
“and Isaac was forty years old when he took Rebekah, the daughter of Bethuel the Aramean of Paddan-aram, the sister of Laban the Aramean, to be his wife.”
The Zohar tells us that Rebekah was 3 years old and Isaac 40 years old when they met. The Torah goes into details, tells us where Rebekah came from in order to emphasize that she was pure even though she came from a negative environment.
After meeting with his soulmate, Isaac waited 20 year until he was 60 years old to achieve spiritual completion. At that age his vessel ‘matured’ and could include the 6 sefirot of Zeir Anpin. At that level he was able to have Jacob who was pure when he was born.
“וַיֶּעְתַּר יִצְחָק לַיהוָה לְנֹכַח אִשְׁתּוֹ, כִּי עֲקָרָה הִוא; וַיֵּעָתֶר לוֹ יְהוָה, וַתַּהַר רִבְקָה אִשְׁתּוֹ”
“And Isaac prayed to YHVH for his wife, because she was barren. And YHVH granted his prayer, and Rebekah his wife conceived.”
When Isaac was ready he prayed to God and his prayer was answered immediately. The patriarchs didn’t think about the joy of marriage in the common sense of the word. They were spiritual giants who knew the impact of their actions on the world. At age 37 Isaac submits himself to the will of God and his father. He let himself to be sacrificed on the altar his father made for him. Three years later he took Rebekah and waited 20 more years to do the right thing in order to draw the perfect soul of Jacob. He was high enough to know that waiting for his vessel to grow and for the Light to make Rebekah be ‘fruitful’ as the seventh, Malchut. That process would draw the complete Light of Zeir Anpin into his wife’s vessel and merit to have the child as Jacob, who became the father of all the children of Israel.
Sometimes we have difficulties in life that we don’t understand. God has a plan and guides us into doing the right things for our personal improvement, and for the benefit of the Tikkun of the world. When we try to ‘rush’ things or leave the pure system we might cause big corruptions in the system of cause and effect. It then becomes harder to fix that with Chassadim. God comes to our help and uses the Gevurah and the aspects of Judgment to make things right again. That process comes with pain.
Abraham and Isaac could see most of their future and act on that knowledge. We are blind from seeing even the next hour. We can not see our past incarnations to learn from them, and definitely can not see or understand the chain of cause and effect leading to our current situation.
The only way to walk on the true path of righteousness is to study and follow the Zohar. The secrets that the Zohar reveals to us about the ways of the patriarchs, matriarchs and the spiritual laws, help us walk on the right and just path.