Zohar Ki Tisa
Rabbi Aba says that friends that didn’t have true love among them, leave the world before their time. During the time of Rabbi Shimon there was a true love among the friends on the levels of Nefesh and Ruach, which are the aspects of love through actions and love and unity with their hearts and spiritual connections. For that reason, the secrets of the Torah were revealed in the generation of Rabbi Shimon.
Rabbi Shimon used to say that the friends that do not love each other cause themselves to walk on the wrong path and also put flaws in their Torah studies that has love, unity and truth.
Love, אהבה is numerically 13. The actions with love is the aspect of Malchut. Love from the heart is the aspect of Zeir Anpin. True love is a result of acting with love from the heart. The two aspects, 13+13=26, which is numerically YHVH יהוה. It brings great revelation of Light.
The love among Rabbi Shimon and his friends was so pure and true that they affected their entire generation with great revelations of Light and Torah secrets.
The Zohar tells us that Abraham loved Isaac, Isaac loved Abraham and both of them hugged Jacob with love, unity and truth.
Abraham is right column, Isaac is left and Jacob represents the unification of both as the central column, balance and it is called ‘truth’. Micah 7:20 ”truth to Jacob..”. The Torah is truth and channels the love of God to us. To feel this love, we need to have affinity with it by loving each other unconditionally and study the Zohar.
Most people express love with hidden personal agendas. The outcome of such corrupted love is experiencing lack and separation. Without true love and connection to the Light through the Torah and its precepts, the nourishment ‘feed’ from the upper levels cannot be established to preserve unity in truth.
There are many relationships that started with love and later the empty bond maintained by personal agenda related to children, money, social status and similar.
Nothing is lost until we give up. For those who want to make efforts in saving their relationships I suggest focusing on one or more positive traits that they can find in the other person and learn to love and respect it. If they don’t find any positive traits then there’s blindness caused by negativity that can be broken with a lot of light earned through desire to find it and studies. When you find positive traits, share it with the other person and start building on it. If your hearts are in truth, then with the study of Zohar both of you have a good chance to ‘restart’ the relationship with true and balanced love.