Holy Zohar text. Daily Zohar -278.

Tikkun 21 – 19

Elevating light from Malchut to Binah is in the aspect of using sling, קלע to shoot up a stone, אבן. The process is קלע, and אבן is the method. Sefer Yetzirah, the Book of Formation, calls the letters “stones”, as they are the building blocks of the universe.

This process elevates “מים נוקבין” “female waters” through the central column, which is Zeir Anpin and the effect is that Binah opens its rivers of energy to flow down to Malchut through Zeir Anpin that serves as a channel.

The female waters is generated from the connection with the sacred words of Torah and Zohar. They are the ‘stones’ אבנים that build the path from the spiritual to the physical.

When a woman is happy she is elevated from Malchut and her connection to Zeir Anpin, her husband, can open the gates of blessings from Binah.
The man should make his wife happy all the time to draw blessings form Binah. That will trigger the flow of light from Binah through the man, Zeir Anpin to their life, Malchut.
An elevated woman can build the man, because she is connected to Binah. The woman that is in the Malchut level will drain the man.
That explains the saying “A woman can build and a woman can destroy”.