In Genesis 1:27 we read that God created man and woman, connected as one back to back. In the next verse God blessed them as united male and female. This is the root and connection of soul mates. The Zohar reveals that before the soul comes down to the world, God separate his soul mate and put her into a different body for them to join later.
“וַיְבָרֶךְ אֹתָם, אֱלֹהִים, וַיֹּאמֶר לָהֶם אֱלֹהִים פְּרוּ וּרְבוּ וּמִלְאוּ אֶת-הָאָרֶץ, וְכִבְשֻׁהָ; ”
“And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it,”
The Zohar tells us that God’s blessings was like the seven blessings that the bride and groom receive during their marriage ceremony. The ceremony starts with the bride encircling the groom seven times.
The groom is the aspect of Zeir Anpin, which is the six Sefirot of Chessed to Yessod. The bride is the seventh and when she connects completely with the energy of the groom, she creates the vessel of their lives together. The seven blessings that follows draw the Light to the seven levels of their vessel and make it sacred. The ceremony is called ‘Kidushin’, which means ‘sanctification’. At this stage the connection of the bride and groom became holy and the light filled the vessel. The following blessings over myrtle and the Kidush over wine, draw the soul level/Light of Ruach.
The woman is silent during the entire process because she’s in the receiving process. She can only answer Amen to the blessings. She receives/locks the level of Ruach from her husband when they join in bed at the night of the wedding.
After God separated the man and the woman, the Torah immediately says that they should be together as one flesh.
“עַל-כֵּן, יַעֲזָב-אִישׁ, אֶת-אָבִיו, וְאֶת-אִמּוֹ; וְדָבַק בְּאִשְׁתּוֹ, וְהָיוּ לְבָשָׂר אֶחָד”
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”
This is very important rule to follow in order to preserve the holiness and light that the couple received when they got married.
The Zohar teaches us that a person who put flaw in the unification of their marriage by connecting to other woman is as if he disconnects the light of Zeir Anpin from Malchut. This sin is not going away by repentance. Only after the death of the person, he goes through the process of punishment in hell to cleanse his soul from this sin.
Married couples should stay loyal to each other in order to maintain the blessings they received. The best way to avoid such corruption in the flow of light to the family is by focusing inside on ways to strengthen the relationship. Looking for pleasures or comfort outside the marriage puts the person on a path of destruction of the marriage, family and also their channels of sustenance.
There’s always a way back for those who married in a holy process, because the seed of Light is still there to re-ignited be and remove the darkness that invaded the relationship.