Daily Zohar # 3858 – Mishpatim – When coming back to life without a soul mate…
Daily Zohar 3858
133. וְאוֹתוֹ הַגּוּף הָרִאשׁוֹן שֶׁהִשְׁאִיר, אִלְמָלֵא יֵדְעוּ וְיִסְתַּכְּלוּ בְּנֵי הָעוֹלָם אֶת הַצַּעַר שֶׁיֵּשׁ לוֹ כְּשֶׁיֵּעָקֵר מִן עוֹלַם הַזָּכָר וְחוֹזֵר לְעוֹלַם הַנְּקֵבָה, יֵדְעוּ שֶׁהֲרֵי אֵין צַעַר בָּעוֹלָם כְּאוֹתוֹ הַצַּעַר. בַּת זוּג אֵין לוֹ, שֶׁהֲרֵי אֵינוֹ עוֹמֵד בְּמָקוֹם שֶׁל זָכָר. לֹא מַכְרִיזִים עָלָיו עַל הַנְּקֵבָה, שֶׁהֲרֵי הוּא מֵעוֹלַם הַנְּקֵבָה. וְאִם יֵשׁ לוֹ בַּת זוּג, זֶה בְּרַחֲמִים נִפְגָּשׁ עִם (בְּאַחַת) נְקֵבָה, שֶׁעַד עַכְשָׁו אֵין לָהּ בֶּן זוּג. וְעַל זֶה שָׁנִינוּ, שֶׁמָּא יְקַדְּמֶנּוּ אַחֵר בְּרַחֲמִים, אַחֵר שֶׁשָּׁנִינוּ. וְהַכֹּל הוּא עַל תִּקּוּנוֹ.
Continued from previous DZ
After the Yibum, the husband’s soul reincarnates as the son to his widow. Because of that, he doesn’t have a soul mate to marry. Before a child is born, the heavens announce who will marry the newborn. In the case of the child from the Yibum, there is no such announcement because of the above reason.
The first body left by the dead without sons is going through a tremendous pain. If people knew the sorrow he has when he is uprooted from the male world, Zeir Anpin, and returned to the female world, Malchut, they would know that there is no great sorrow in the world like that sorrow. He does not have a partner, and the heavens don’t announce a soul mate for him. And if he has a mate, it comes with mercy by prayer. He meets a female, who until now has not had a mate.
About this, we have learned from the sages not to delay a wedding to avoid losing the woman to another man that came to this world without a soul mate. (Moed Katan 18) “Perhaps another man will come and betrothed the woman first?
The one who died without children is called “אחר” “Another” as we read in; Deuteronomy 24:1,2
“כִּי יִקַּח אִישׁ אִשָּׁה וּבְעָלָהּ וְהָיָה אִם לֹא תִמְצָא חֵן בְּעֵינָיו כִּי מָצָא בָהּ עֶרְוַת דָּבָר וְכָתַב לָהּ סֵפֶר כְּרִיתֻת וְנָתַן בְּיָדָהּ וְשִׁלְּחָהּ מִבֵּיתוֹ.”
“וְיָצְאָה מִבֵּיתוֹ וְהָלְכָה וְהָיְתָה לְאִישׁ אַחֵר.”
“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house,”
“when she has departed from his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife,”
The Torah prioritizes the unification of two souls and allows a proper divorce process to release the soul from a marriage bond.
The second verse above says that the woman who received a divorce bill is freed to marry another man.
The image of perfect marriage installed in the minds of young people corrupts the spiritual connection between true soul mates. Early sex contaminates the woman’s vessel and distracts the man from the mission of getting ready to unite with his soul mate.
We are at the last stages of the world Tikkun, and it is tough to find and match souls. It is better to marry “another” than to miss a good marriage’s spiritual connection and blessings. A non-married woman should not ignore a divorced or widowed man, and a man should not ignore a divorced woman with children because she may have been with “another” and now is ready for him.
To avoid losing marriage opportunities, It is okay to arrange and prepare for a wedding even when we are not allowed to make the actual wedding. It means that engagement can be done at any time, even on the ninth of Av. We do not delay marriage.
Even if we feel married to “another, “we make efforts to sanctify the connection for the sake of drawing blessings and keeping the peaceful spiritual connection in the heavens.
Best time for a woman to bless her husband and the home is immediately after lighting the Shabbat Candles. Giving Tzedakah on Friday makes a better connection to Yessod of Zeir Anpin and unification with the presence of the Shechina in Malchut during Shabbat. Each one according to their abilities, even putting a few coins in a Tzedakah jar with the proper consciousness before Shabbat can do wonders.
Friday would be a good day to make a ** Donation, especially if you didn’t donate in the past week. Giving on Friday, which is an aspect of Yessod, expands the vessel for the Light and honor of Shabbat.
** Your donation doesn’t have to be given to the same place every week. You can alternate or split your donation among those who benefit you spiritually.